Why I don’t drink…

And why you might want to quit also…

Now I am not here to tell you how to live your life, I am just here to hopefully… HOPEFULLY inspire you to make a change in your life that you believe is beneficial to it. That being said – here is my story and why I don’t drink anymore.

I started drinking at a young age of about 13-14 (behind my mothers back and knowledge) a friends father purchased us a bottle of Bundaberg rum and I do not need to tell you the rest of that unpleasant night. My friends and I thought we were pretty cool at the time but as we got older and our hormones, bodies, mindsets and lives changed the affects of alcohol did different things to us. I was already angry enough as a teenager, I never went to school, I always got into fights and whenever the chance arose I would binge drink at parties with friends which would ultimately lead up to more of the previous situations. I never once thought it was my mindset or surroundings I placed myself in, it was only after I was about 19 years old when my girlfriend at the time asked me why I could never have just one beer and why I felt I had to get excessively drunk each time drinking was an option… I honestly couldn’t answer her question and I was shocked that I didn’t know how to answer it either.
She slowly helped me stop drinking as much, I noticed a significant change in my physical and mental health. I certainly didn’t regret waking up on a Saturday or Sunday sober and hangover-less.
I was going to the gym before this point and I noticed how much stronger and muscular I became after not drinking as much, this helped motivate me even further and I started to take gym and lifestyle seriously.
I also noticed I had saved more money than I ever had before due to the fact I wasn’t spending it on alcohol, buying spicy senorita’s drinks, late night cab fairs home and entry fees to clubs. I realised it was the right time to cut drinking out completely after I had moved away from home. I was living with friends and the environment was very supportive. I did 4 months sober and then 1-2 months here and there after that – only having a few drinks on birthdays and special occasions.

In 2015 I met a woman who rarely drank either, we went to Woodford folk festival together but we decided to drink. She was a good and had a kind nature, I ended up spoil our time at Woodford folk festival by choosing to drink. She wanted to stay up until 5am on new years eve/day to watch the sunrise. I became too intoxicated and she missed it because of my choices. I promised myself I wouldn’t let that happen again.

I didn’t drink anything until the 3rd of july 2016 that year (my birthday) at by which time she was my partner. I achieved more in that 7 months than I had in my whole life. we woke up and spent time together sober and I realised eventually I don’t need substances to have a good time when socialising and that mindset of “social drinker” or “social smoker” evaporated. I ended up saving 6-7 thousand and going to Europe for three months. The last time I drank was on new years eve last year and I stopped drinking at 1800 so I would be sober for coming into the new year. I drank a few times in Bali since then while travelling. I probably had 2-3 beers when I did and I  haven’t drank for a month since I  left and I can confidently say I feel fucking amazing.

I am once again not here to “dictate” what you chose to do with your money and time, I only hope I inspire you to make a change you believe is positive for your physical, mental and financial health.

I recommend trying a dry month and see how you feel, if you drink do you think you might have a problem? if so don’t be hesitant to reach out to family, associations or anyone for support (including me, you have my email so don’t be shy) because you honestly deserve that clarity and quality of life.

Thanks for reading,
OJW

 

Some new photos for your eye balls.

LIGHT5EEKER

hold it up

holdin’ on.

little light

Discover yourself

Self discovery is something EVERYONE struggles with and so should you.

Some people will struggle less than others and some others may struggle less than certain people – but the hardships, the pain and the struggle  is what shapes you into who you want to be.

When you’re on a path towards a passion or goal in life, there is always going to be hardships, but those hardships are life’s way of asking you “do you really want this? is this what you really want in life? is this who you want to be?” and most of the time people realise “no… it’s not who I want to be or what I want in life” and so they quit and move onto the next path, then the next one and then the next path and so on until they give up completely… but that’s when you have to get back up and keep moving forward because the next path is most definitely the right one for you.

Struggle is life’s way of making sure you are on the RIGHT path. If you give up on a dream… Then it wasn’t your dream. If you give up on a lover, then you weren’t in love, if you give up on yourself… then how will you ever discover yourself? because you get to a point where what you want in life out weighs any struggle, any obstacle and any limitation you may have been given or placed upon yourself.

I have found that the best place for self discovery is within solitude, because here you have time to think and focus. When you’re alone it’s only up to you and you have no one to blame but yourself. That freedom is crippling whilst also liberating… this is the price we pay for all such commodities.

Stay strong, Stay uncomfortable and don’t be too hard on yourself while on your journey here.

with love,
OJW

photographer by me as usual, some hidden photos from the EURO trip archives.

R U S H

lonely light

sleepy lightning

Anniek

Life is a mindset.

It’s time to stop running, stop making excuses, stop lying to yourself and others, stop putting others down. It’s time we look deep within ourselves and tell ourselves that “I am pulled to what I dream of, whatever it may be. To be pulled to the mountains and the streams, to staying healthy and strong (mentally and physically) and to the people I love, especially my lover (if you have one) so I can continue to be pulled forward by my vision of a better life,  full of passion and power, full of laughter and love”

If not for you, then think of who you are doing it for, think of your children, your brothers and sisters, your mother and father, you soon to be wife.

Be strong against the waves of life, but do not shy from the ebb and flow of them, sometimes fighting the tide is what drowns you, instead of floating out on the ocean to rest and draw upon your strengths.

Stay strong, stay humble and most of all stay vulnerable.

OJW.

“I choose” mantra to be read in the mornings and evenings for 60 days. Read this to yourself each day and night to steady yourself in trialling times.

I choose…

To live by choice, not by chance,.
To be motivated not manipulated.
To be useful, not used.
To make changes, not excuses.
To excel, not compete.

I choose self esteem, not self pity.
I choose to listen to my own voice, not the random opinions of others.

I choose to do the things that YOU WON’T so I can continue to do the things YOU CAN’T.

 

B O W

B O W

DARk

DARk

SHE-MOON dedicated to Mikyla Meckelson

SHE-MOON dedicated to Mikyla Meckelson

UNFORGIVEN

UNFORGIVEN

Bow your head


Do you remember the last time you had to bow your head in the face of adversity? I certainly do, I don’t think most people forget those moments.

So… how can you come back from those challenging moments? that desperate feeling when your spirit is flickering as if a weak flame? you simply have to give in – although I don’t mean give in to your anger or negative emotions, nor do I mean give in to the weight that you had let put you in this place originally… you have to give in to life’s greatest lesson, remembering that when you’re down and on the ground – from whatever it may be – that it becomes difficult to get back up (and most people never do) but that doesn’t mean you can’t stand tall again. As world famous motivational speaker Les Brown once said “if you can look up, you can get up” this applies to many things in our lives that we face, including this kind of situation.

You might be in this trailing time because of a family member, your boss, your partner or even just from a financial situation, either way… Les Brown was right. I know you can get back up, but first you have to look up and then get up.

When looking back on the obvious I have just shared, it brings me back to the original point I came here to share with everyone reading. This obvious but you over looked power comes from a Buddhist mindset which is “there is a lesson to be learned, in everything” or in this situation – new growth to be gained.

When you’re down and in a hard place, that’s where the growth really happens. When you feel pushed down and set aside by life’s trials, when you’re overwhelmed and can’t pay your bills, when you’re struggling to find a reason to go on it’s hard, and where there is resistance there is capacity for growth  because anyone can be happy when they’re safe, when their bills are paid, when they have friends and family who support them… but these hard times we go through are when you have “a real” opportunity for growth, this is when the potential for growth is highest, when there is the most resistance. This is one of the simplest but truly ultimate life lessons we all should strive to learn.

Thanks for reading, stay humble, stay focused.

OJW.

Location for photos – Canggu beach, Canggu, Bali

OBS3RV3

OBS3RV3

La Mar

La Mar

 

pretty poison.

You might think a skate bowl out the back of a bar in the middle of some rice fields sounds like a ridiculous idea… well the owners from pretty poison didn’t.

Pretty poison is a bar in Canggu, Bali where you can go to have food and drinks while watching people skate, if you feel you’re good enough they may even lend you a board.

Why am I posting this? because its awesome and it is also a good testament to whatever crazy unrealistic dreams you may have. I didn’t get the pleasure to meet the owners but I am sure they got criticism when they first had the idea (and now it is one of the most popular bars in Canggu)

I also wanted to apologise for the lack of posts, my life has become a little wild right now (in the best way possible eg. falling in love and trying to move countries/excel in my career at the same time) so if you’re still here, still reading… I appreciate the support.

Keep grinding, stay humble.

OJW.

after dark

after dark

DARK LIGHT

DARK LIGHT

karve

karve

T H R O N E

T H R O N E

2 people…

You read and hear quite often that there are “two types of people in this world… ” Yes, ultimately, this is true – Although… it’s four rather than two…  So, steady yourself for these question and for what you may find, on our journey.

What do you tell yourself, when you don’t have enough money? When you lack the education, skill sets or support to pursue something you’ve always wanted? Or better yet, maybe even needed?

How do you feel when you repeat your answer in your head and when you can’t have what you want, when you want it?

How does it make you feel,  as you repeat the answer in your head? When you can’t have what you want, when you want it?

In which way to do you react (physically and mentally) to these feelings you may have or these “challenges” or “obstacles” when they present themselves?

Lastly, what do you tell yourself in your mind after these things? what do you say about yourself to yourself? what do you tell other people after these things may happen? and what do you say to other people (not just in a verbal sense, but how do you hold yourself physically, how do you face others in a conversation) around you about yourself? aka your wife, husband, partner, your friends, your boss, your co-workers, family, kids, dog whatever it is. How do you view yourself in this world? that is truly the key to ultimate power my friends… mindset and perception is the only key you truly need.

If you say “I am poor” rather than “I am broke” what do you think that says about you? you can have no money but still be rich in your soul, mind and body without finance. I have met poor men who are millionaires and I have met rich kings who sleep in a humble wooden hut. If you want great riches, success, happiness, wealth, health, prosperity… what’s holding you back? is it your worst enemy? your mean co-worker? your partner? your friends or family even? is it the fact you grew up in poverty maybe? I want you to take a real long look at yourself, and this is real important… I want you to think about whatever it may be and then I am here to tell you, that you are wrong.

The only motherfucker stopping you from being where you want to be in life is the same person staring back at you every morning when you wake up and look in the mirror…

there are those who say “I can’t” those who say “I can” those who say “I am a victim” and those who say “I am a survivor.”

The importance of your existence has been greatly under-exaggerated… have you not thought that possibly somewhere you are needed?

Stay focused, Stay strong and most of all, stay humble.

OJW.

 

on the line

on the line

Gan Vogh

Gan Vogh

DRIVEBYE

DRIVEBYE

H O M E L E S S

H O M E L E S S

Question beauty.

Bali is growing fast, trying to compete with the western world with its booming tourist industry. Hotels and home stays are on the rise, fancy restaurants and bars are being built rapidly but despite the heavy work load, the Indonesian people are extremely resilient, they work in conditions we could not even comprehend, they have very minimal work place regulations in construction, I am not sure if I have witnessed a single engineer inspecting of the giant concrete structures being built by a mass of family members from as old as your grandma to you’re 4 year old nephew.

I woke early, I couldn’t sleep, my heavy eyes focused on my watch face to tell me the time was roughly 6am, the morning light was hitting the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. I got up slowly to not wake her as I moved out onto the balcony, to enjoy the photography game I love so much. I stood and observed as people prayed to the Hindu Gods, lighting incense while laying material offerings on intricate structures they had built atop their small housing and below on their doorsteps, blessing them with holy water. When I first smelt the smoke I thought of the bush fires from the outback, but the mass of smoke was actually from everyone in the village simultaneously lighting incense upon their alters.

I began to watch a man (no younger than 55) climb to the top of a bamboo scaffolding structure, he paced back and forth, checking for water damage and looking at the rope holding it together, he smoked a bent cigarette and took deep breaths while going over his work space for the day. I love watching people, seeing how they move, tracking them with my lens. I find when taking photos of people in a candid format, you feel them, you become a part of who they are as you track their movements, you can hear them exhale and feel them taking their steps in your minds… It makes you question what beauty is when you watch a different world awaken for the same sunrise, just to pray and work. I find it sad how we come here and barter for 1 australian dollar on a shitty pair of sunglasses or a cab… these people deserve better and I am just one man, I wish I could’ve done more besides the few 100,000 rupees I gave the street kids and homeless people, or more than feeding the stray dogs and giving them water.

thanks for the love, take care and be kind to each other.

regards,
OJW

true grit

true grit

hardcore

hardcore

contemplation

contemplation

hope

hope

Vulnerable

when you choose to move forward in life, you’re going to make yourself vulnerable… Don’t fight it, it’s inevitable. When this happens, know that you have to be very tough to make yourself vulnerable – this relates to you on a professional, financial, spiritual and personal level… EVERYTHING is going to test you, whether it’s your new boss, clients, your own mind or for me currently the world of travelling and writing.

I am currently sitting on a porch in Ubud, Bali, Indonesia. It’s raining, it has been raining for 4 days, I crashed a scooter and tore flesh off my leg and cannot walk and I now need medical attention for a possible tropical infection. I recently got given the opportunity to write a lifestyle and travel article for a magazine… so far not so good, every major event I have wanted to document has been rained out, now I can’t even walk properly but guess what? do you think I am going to give up? do you think I’m going to run home crying to my mummy like a little bitch? hell no. I’m going to go out and tackle this article like a man, I’m going to punch Bali in the face and yell “NOT THIS TIME WORLD”

Why am I telling you this? because if I can still want to keep going after almost dying and having mother nature (the most powerful force on earth) try and stop me, then why can’t you keep going? comment below if you want to tell me what you’re facing right now and let’s figure out a solution to both of our trials for us in this period of our lives.

stay strong, stay humble and most of all… stay vulnerable.

OJW.

– photographs from kuta, bali –

purge

purge

light

light

oldways

oldways

please don't sit here

please don’t sit here

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“Luck” and featured FIVE MILE RADIUS photographs.

photographs –

photographs featured were taken for FIVE MILE RADIUS, an architecture firm in Brisbane, AUS.

My best friend and his piers have started their journey on “the path less travelled” to accomplish their dreams of creating a “sustainable and renewable material based” architecture firm and that exclusively designs and builds models/structures/housing with only renewable and sustainable energy and materials.

 

Hey everyone,

first of I just want to say thanks to the handful of new followers VVOLFWOOD has received, I hope my stories, quotes and words have inspired you in some way to make change in you’re life for the greater good.

Right now I am sitting at the airport waiting to get a plane to Indonesion, Bali ( I know how bloody Australian of me… ) but I am not here to brag about my adventures so I hope it is not taken that way, I am here to talk about self discovery and how you can find things about yourself through hard work and dedication to your craft and dreams and also to touch on the concept of “luck” now, I may be going to Bali to explore a new culture, meet a beautiful American girl and paddle board around for a few weeks but I am also going there for an article on lifestyle and travel (my first true journalistic role) when I booked the tickets, I was worried about money/ my upcoming career so I decided to do something about that worry instead of just sitting on my old beaten up mitts. I started emailing every magazine in my area, in australia and outward,  I must’ve sent around 70-75 emails to different places – I had two responses, one was a very polite “no” that ended up with me being kept on file because of taking this blow humbly with a “thank you for taking the time to reply” and the second was from a man called Greg. Now I am not going to give you his full name or the magazines name (yet) until I have completed the article and it is printed (I don’t like to talk about what I am going to do until I have finished usually) but the reason I am telling you, is because I now get to have a holiday AND work on my career AND see a fantastic woman all in one (not to mention the beautiful photos I will take and sell) I just want you to think about that, take inspiration from it and re-channel that energy into your own life. What can you do today to reach those goals?

Now onto “Luck” – Conor McGregor once said “hard work puts you in the places where luck with find you” and I agree, but when the opportunity comes… YOU HAVE TO SEIZE IT! and don’t let go of that slippery fucker until your mission is completed. This opportunity did not just fall in my lap by sitting there, no I stayed up late nights, working on my website, editing and taking photos, reading, learning, growing all for this single moment… and the universe replied with a “that’ll do lad” and gave this dog a bone and this dog is hungry.

Thanks for tuning in VVOLFWOOD pack, I’ll see you on the other side.

love and respect,
OJW.

create more

create more

- used -

– used –

chipper

chipper

REWOP<

REWOP<

worn

worn

On the right path

Hi,

OJW here – I signed in today to ask you, are you on the right path? are you heading where you want to be in life? is your journey here helping you grow and challenge yourself and experience all you want to experience whilst here on your journey?

most people will say yes, and that’s great! (as long as you are not lying to yourself) but if you’re someone who is thinking “no, I am not” then I’m here to say – what’s stopping you kid?

And please, don’t make excuses while you’re here. Don’t fucking sit there and tell yourself its someone else’s fault or you have no money or you are this and that… look, a tree can’t be anything but a tree and a dog can’t be anything but a dog but as humans with have unlimited potential, so – please do yourself a favour and don’t sell yourself short and don’t make shitty excuses as to why you’re not trying to be a better person each and every day and if not for you, then do it for your family, do it for your kids or your spouse or your friends or you cat I don’t care… at first its going to be really hard, now you might think I am joking haha oh boy you’re in for a surprise. I’m here to tell you, that you can be somebody but it’s going to take hard consistent work to change your life but if anyone can do it, why not you?

now there are going to be people trying to put you down and these people will be some of the people that are closest to you, now these people do this because you remind them of what they could’ve become if they didn’t give up because it’s easy to be average, it is easy to sit on the couch and point the finger and make excuses for the fact that you are not who you want to be in life or what job you want or how you want to look or who you want to be with or what you want to see… so.. I’m here to say, I believe in you because you have something great within you, you just don’t see it yet.
thanks for reading, stay strong, stay humble.

with respect and love,

OJW.

paths less travelled

paths less travelled

manhood

manhood

trooper

trooper